Reverb 10: Try

Try. What do you want to try next year? Is there something you wanted to try in 2010? What happened when you did / didn't go for it? There were a lot things I tried--and accomplished this year. More travel: 10+ cities. Climbing a 14er. Following the Paleo (eating) plan for more than 3 months. Speaking in front of nearly 900 people.

The thing I didn't try enough of but will next year is simple. Writing.

Sure--I wrote this year. In fact I wrote 34 blog posts (including this one).  I'm always writing. At least in my head. Much of it never gets to written page because I'm otherwise occupied without a writing utensil (showering or driving typically). Sometimes it's because I'm trying to write perfect first drafts. Other snippets get written down somewhere on a scrap piece of paper that I lose or that just never gets connected to something larger. Most of the time it's because I don't take the time to pull it together into a cohesive piece. Here are a few of my favorites that still need a home:

- My cape of shame.

- 24 years ago in my 18th year of breathing I had two crushing events whose impact has lingered until now. My 42nd year outside the safety of my mother's womb.

- Just remember...we listen to ourselves.

- Why Nike's Just Do It edict won't help you just do it.

There are many more than this--probably better--well, hopefully better. In 2011 I will write more. Not just try. As the wise philosopher Yoda once said, "Do or do not. There is no try." So I will do. Regardless of clients or other work. I will not just write but collect it into some sort of readable form and publish at least one book. Yep. I will write & publish at least one book in 2011.

Randomly...or maybe not so randomly...

I'd love to find a publisher to formally publish a new edition of this book and to publish my next one. Keep a look out for me huh? Remember: There is no or do not.

Reverb 10: Lesson Learned

Lesson learned. What was the best thing you learned about yourself this past year? And how will you apply that lesson going forward? Silence may be golden can also be torture. You know me. If you don't know me personally then you know someone like me. I always have a million and 1 things going on at a time. I have friends all over town and can't walk into a place without having to say hi to at least 10 people--in a cafe with 15. I lived in big cities in the middle of all the hub and bub for 14 years. I regularly worked 60-70 hours a week in the consulting world for many years. And for the crowning moment: I used to have a t-shirt that read...chatterbox.

The sound of silence.

You can imagine that silence can be a bit deafening for a person like me. Getting away with just my thoughts and have lots of white space sounded really enticing. I've always thought a silent retreat would be delightful. It'd be so romantic. Even if I was alone. I'd have all these beautiful, calm moments. I'd be serene. The knowledge of the whole world would appear before me. It would be exactly what I needed.

I was wrong. I didn't know what to do with myself. All that time. All those thoughts.

Private hell for one please.

See, silence is hard. Being busy, amped up and running around pell mell is easy. Well, at least for someone like me. Talkative. Constantly moving. A recovering Type A. Someone who can generally do anything she puts her mind to. Not so in this case. I struggled, thrashed about like a fish on a dock who is desperately trying to get away even though they suspect it's hopeless. Did I learn that silence is golden and beautiful. Um, no. I'm definitely still a work in progress on this one.

I did learn that when I do get silent it allows me to see my thoughts. I begin to get clear about what's super important (love, passion, values) and what's not (the semi-cute shirt I saw on sale). I begin to quickly and easily know the answers to the questions that linger on my mind. It's a beginning. That's really what silence is.

An opening.

Reverb 10: 11 Things

Well hello again. Long time Did ya miss me? I missed you! Last week I spent a few days in New York visiting a dear friend. It was a fun  few days of madcap pace and folly's--like running through Times Square--late to see Billy Elliot shrieking "Will run for theatre!" (Yep. True Story.) After that I slowed waaaaay down in the Bahamas on Exuma Island where I'll be until just before the New Year. 11 Things. What are 11 things your life doesn't need in 2011? How will you go about eliminating them? How will getting rid of these 11 things change your life?

#1 Drama (Especially other people's drama.) Don't want it. Don't need it. Done with it.

#2 Clutter (Physical, mental...even social)

#3 Believing I can't do (insert anything here)

#4 Sugar (Time to get rid of this...again)

#5 Doing the same things over and over again (Let this be a year of 1sts!)

#6 Being just a wee bit late (Sure it's usually only 5 minutes but still)

#7 An overflowing inbox

#8 I forget what 8 was for but 9, 9...

#9 Thinking travel is too expensive & I don't have time (More travel in 2011. And maybe, one day I'll be a vagabond for a while like Andrew Hyde)

#10 Worrying about not being a true artist/writer/creative (and just create!)

#11 ______________________

I feel like those are the biggies that quickly spring to mind. I'm sure there are at least a couple of other things I just don't need. What would you suggest as the 11th thing I don't need in my life in 2011?

Reverb 10: Community

Community. Where have you discovered community, online or otherwise, in 2010? What community would you like to join, create or more deeply connect with in 2011? 2010 began for me with a relatively small community in my new city of Boulder. I had always wished to more. It quickly grew. In the past year I've discovered community with...

- The tech startup world of Boulder. I'd been out of that world for a while and it welcome surprise to find out that it still resonated and felt like home.

- Twitterers. I started following just a few and now have more than 700 (and growing) kindred spirits who enlighten, educate and entertain me daily.

- Boulder. Very livable city, great people, near the mountains. Enough said.

- The local fire community. I found this community by trying to support a dear friend during the massive Boulder Fire.  I've met incredible people who volunteer their time to fight fires and helped co-found an organization that raises money to support them.

- The dearest friends ever. Although I've lived in 5 cities, this is the place where I feel like I have the deepest and most connections I've ever had. Including Cali, the author of this prompt.

- Riders. As a baby snowboarder, they took me to the slopes and forced me to challenge myself--bringing out an inner athlete I didn't know I had.

- Igniters. Geeky presentations that auto-advance every 15 seconds? I'm there. I was lucky enough to be able to speak at Ignite 10 & happily cheer on anyone with courage to speak in front of more than 900 people. If you have the chance--do it.

- My family. This year I really discovered how much I really love my family. How much I am like them. I'm very happy about that. My "other" family in Boulder is Atlas Purveyors. If you want to know where I am most days look here first. They not only know my name...they know my drink.

- Writers. Writing made a BIG comeback for me in 2010. Friends who are writers, and Reverb 10 have provided a great home for this revival.

So those are (some) of my peeps. In the past I've had this habit of thinking that no one understands me. That I'm too unique. (A throwback from my tortured teenage days) If you hear this from me I give you full permission to put this post in my face as a reminder.

Yeah--I'd say I discovered Community with a capital C in 2010. Turns out it was pretty easy for me. This is a pretty big deal for someone who was convinced they never fit it. So, so, so looking forward to the deepening of this community and the new ones I create in 2011--especially with other tech entrepreneurs.

Reverb 10: Make

Make. What was the last thing you made? What materials did you use? Is there something you want to make, but you need to clear some time for it? Let's just be blunt. I'm not a good cook, drafter or painter (all proven). Given this lack of technical talent with my hands I tend "make" things that are generally less tangible. My raw materials are me.

I make...

- (er, write) books.

- New ideas every day.

- Friends easily.

- Meaning. From everything.

- Collections of my nieces' art work.

- Decisions. Usually good ones.

- People smile cuz I'm usually riding the "fun bus."

- Collections. (Buddhas, Ganeshas & Owls are my favorites)

- Things happen. You want something done? I'm your person.

- People feel accepted & cared for.

- Community and connections wherever I go.

- A mess of my room & then clean it up--daily.

- People (including clients & my dog) do things they don't know they can do.

On a tangible note: I used to bake. Biscuits from scratch. Vegan cookies that tasted "real." I once even made chicken pot pie. OK--I made the crust and assisted with the chopping. My Kitchen Aid mixer is one of the favorite material things I own. I plan to get back to it one day.

Right now though...the things I really want to make more of are books. Like the one I wrote on one of my favorite topics. I'm off on a nearly month-long trip in a few days where I intend to write more books.

And you? What do you like to make? How do you make time for it?