It's that time of year. Yep. New Year's Resolution time.
If you're anything like me let me tell you what's going to happen. Feeling fat and loathsome after a long holiday of eating, being sedentary, spending too much and not doing much you...
Step 1: Make a whole bunch of resolutions that are largely unachievable.
Step 2: Break all of them within a month.
Step 3: Feel like crap about yourself so go back to eating, being sedentary, spending too much and not doing much.
Step 4: Feel guilty. Berate yourself.
Step 5: Go back to Step 1. And repeat.
Don't do this. Now, let me offer you something that really works. Something I also do randomly all year-round is to ask myself a very simple question.
Is my life better or worse than a year ago?
It started as a random wandering of my brain many years ago and has evolved into a practice. This barometer check allows me to quickly break things down in a very black and white way so that I can assess and take action. It's like my very own Timehop but with action.
I did it reflexively today. My mind wandered back to what I was doing a year ago today. At that time I was in an unhappy relationship. I didn't know what I wanted to do next. Trust in myself. Pretty close to negligible. This year? I'm happily single, I'm doing work I love and I trust myself to make decisions that put myself first. Also? I trust that everything I need will come to me.
Like my assessment today the answer is generally yes. On the rare occasion I can't honestly answer in the affirmative it means it's time for a reinvention, refocus or double down.
So...Is your life better or worse than a year ago?